Ah we grow up so fast
I made peace with someone who has bugged me seven ways to Sunday for a very long time.
I don’t know if they know it. Or if they ever realized how upset I got around them before.
Been waiting a long time for them to do something for me. I mean, a long time. And the person whose behalf I requested it on is ready to give up on both of us.
And while there’s always the chance I’ll get in trouble (or canned, a la the last employer. You know, who punished me for standing up for talented but not yet properly motivated people), I realized they really do want to do a good job. They just aren’t built for the 14-hour shifts that frankly I can’t do anymore, either.
So let’s cram a lifetime into eight-ish. It’s possible. We can do it together.
This small moment is big for me. It’s grace, pure and simple.
I was telling a potential new hire that I meet people where they are. That everyone has something to contribute. That all anyone needs is someone to meet them on their level to help them move forward.
He had asked how I like to communicate. I said not a phone fan BUT it’s stupid to try to meet the “boss” where they are. It’s the “boss” who needs the workers to produce. If you want to chat for an hour every day and you deliver top-quality work, then pick a time because I’m there for you.
He liked that. And I’ll stand by it.
So getting back to my point, I stood by what j just said to a stranger. And I met someone where they are. And funny how, once they “got” what I wanted, they are able to work on it with purpose.
I notice I can let tasks pile up. Not to aggravate anyone but myself. If I don’t get it, it takes me a while to figure out why and how. But once I arrive at those conclusions, I fly through the task.
So why make people guess and mind-read and overcome their frustration that you can’t be clear? (Or in this case, they hate email and I hate the phone. Lo, I picked up a phone. Easy.)
There’s bigger shit to do and it’s nice to have a clean slate so you can tackle the new things.
And now, I can.