‘To love me is to suffer me’
Well this slaps.
Insane AITA post on Reddit about a woman who paid for her sister’s wedding, the sister opened up a credit line in her name without alerting her to pay for more wedding shit, and OP canceled it all after being disinvited.
I was already starting to think boy does this sound like work when I hit this comment:
“This may be fiction based on a real letter, but it’s so true. You’re fine as long as you are an ATM and doormat, but the second you stop, you’re the bad guy.
“It’s also the same in the workplace. The guy who is always there, always does his job, never drops the ball, never makes mistakes, covers others’ work when asked, gives up time to stay late or come early when needed gets called ‘not a team player’ the first time they cannot cover for somebody.”
I thought about something Kelly said, over some average grades I got on being “for the team” and “for the customer.”
She said you’d walk through fire for your team and anyone is an idiot who doesn’t know that. And you provide more customer support than most.
I said well yeah I’ll agree with the first part. And possibly the second but I can definitely do more.
But really … now that I don’t work 14-hour days to support my mom and me … it’s noticed.
I missed mom’s whole life. She sat in this house all day, all week, alone. I had the car. I never came home to those nice dinners she had on the table at 6:30.
I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO BE HOME AT SIX FUCKING THIRTY.
Especially after leaving at like 6 or 7 A fucking M.
So yeah, once you give less … which really just means you’re giving more to YOURSELF … you get downgraded/downvoted.
The good news is I’ve left behind the version of me who would put in an extra hour a day in hopes of earning more respect or at least catching up.
I’m so sorry, Momma. I stayed employed and you stayed lonely. That’s why I don’t “lock in” … why I can’t lock in even when i want to. When all I want to do is just check out.
“Think of all the time
I’ll have with you
When I don’t wake up on my own.
Wake up on my own.
Held close all the time.
Because I’m half of you.”